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After all the crazy things that happened this past summer/year, Taylor and I decided to take the semester off from school in order to make some time for ourselves and get settled into our new place before starting up school again in January. It's been interesting to hear some of the things that people feel they have to say to us because of our decision. Several people who don't even know us well (or at all, for that matter) have come forward to comment on our lifestyle and life choices as if their opinion of us would influence the way we choose to live our life in the future. 

I feel as if, in society, there is this taboo template for "how to be successful in life" that everyone feels they have to follow. People change themselves in order to fit into the mold. It's this false idea that there is only one path to success in life and that any life path that brings success other than THE path is rare luck. 

You know what I'm talking about? The idea that, if you don't go to college (or, in the case of being LDS, you have the alternative decision of going on a mission) immediately after you graduate high school, then you're doomed to fail. If you don't finish your degree immediately and as quickly as possible, you're doomed to fail. If you don't get married in the designated "correct age" set by society to get married, you're doomed to fail. If you don't pop out babies within the first two years of marriage, you're doomed to fail. If you don't do everything according to the template of "how to be successful in life" that has been designated by society, you're doomed to fail.

I don't think there is one correct way to live life. 

Just like there is not one pair of pants that will fit every body type, I believe there is not one template for life that will fit every type of person. For Taylor and I, getting married quick made sense. For other people, taking time to get to know each other more before taking the big step into marriage makes sense. And that's okay. For Taylor and I, taking random semesters off from school to travel and adventure together makes sense. For other people, cranking through school in order to get it done ASAP and move into a new phase of life makes sense. And that's okay. For Taylor and I, we don't feel it's the right for us to have a baby just a year into our marriage. For other people, they decide to have a baby after just a couple of months of being married. And that's okay.

People are different. People need different things. People need to be able to make their own decisions based off of what is right for them. And that's okay! Just like you have the right to navigate through life on the path that works best for you, other people deserve the same. We are all different and that's what makes humanity so lovely. We are different. And that's okay! It's more than just okay, it's wonderful, exhilarating and beautiful.

So the next time you think something like, "They shouldn't be doing that, they're too young," or, "She should stay in school! She's throwing her life away!" just remember that you want people to give you the space to live life the way that fits best for you and you should give others the same respect. We don't know what plans people have for their lives, so we obviously can't make accurate judgements of what will be best for them. People keep trying to tell Taylor and I that we will never go back to school if we take a semester off-- and maybe that statement is accurate about them, but that's not the case for us.

In the end, I'm just glad that there are lots of different pant sizes & types in the world and lots of different paths for us to take. 

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  1. You da real MVP. Your life is seriously a dream! I'm so jealous!

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    1. You are such a doll! Thank you for your nice words. :)

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  2. People need to think like this more often. So cool to see LDS people like you guys making your own way. 화이팅

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  3. Definitely feel what you mean in this. The template might be different up here, but it exists. It's difficult for people like me, though, who came to realize that the template just might not fit me, when it's the only plan I had growing up. I have a hard time dealing with these kind of people because I'm still trying to find my metaphorical pants. Good on the two of you for doing what's best for you! :)

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    1. Yes, the template changes based off of where you're living and your specific community-- but the concept is the same! No one template is the perfect fit for every single person. Hang in there as you find your own "pants." It's tough sometimes, but just remember that the only people who really have any real say in what you do with your life are you and your cute spouse!

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  4. Okay. I always loved school, and so when school just wasn't working out for me, I felt so sad. But I always worked full time, and that was when I realized that school really is only necessary to be successful in positions that REQUIRE degrees. I have so many opinions on school now, haha. I could go on forever.

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    1. YES. I love that! School is awesome and so important-- but it isn't a necessary (or even reasonable) step for everyone. It's just necessary for certain professions. Let's have this school chat sometime because I would love to hear what you have to say!

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  5. As someone that has spent my life living all around the world, I have lived what I will call a diverse life. There is no template. What/whether to study, what to do, whether or not to add to your family... those are all personal decisions that are between you, your spouse, and the Lord. Success depends on what you want out of life, not by what someone defines for you. Only you can know what that is.

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